Why do some men ask the woman that they like if they can court her?  Didn’t it ever ocurred to them that this is such a big turn off for some women?  Asking the girl if they can court her is like asking the girl if she wants to be their girl. Why can’t they just go to the girl’s house and court her without asking for her permission? Isn’t it more romantic that way?

Personally, asking a girl if a guy can court her is like soliciting information.  It’s like the guy doesn’t want to take a risk in courting the girl. For me these men are afraid of rejection because they are looking for an assurance that they will get something out of the effort that they exerted. I do understand that time is very important to people.  And spending it on someone who will not like us is like time wasted.  However, LOVE is a gamble, a risk.  You do things for the person that you love without expecting anything back from them.  You can’t even expect the other person to love you back or love you back as much as you love them.  And besides if the girl doesn’t like you, I think the girl will tell you about it the first time that you court them. Cause hey, they wouldn’t waste your time as much as they won’t waste their time over somebody that they don’t like.  Remember the guy who wants to court me when I was in college? I told him to look for another girl on that very day that he started to court me.  Because I don’t see any reason to have him court me when I know from the start that he is not the kind of guy that I would like to spend my time with.  It may seem harsh but if you’ll think of it, I am doing both of us a favor.  I’m just being fair because if I let him court me overtime, I might agree to have him as my boyfriend not because I love him but because of the guilty feeling that I have wasted his time and because I gave him false hopes.