They said that the secret to a great marriage is a great friendship. You and your partner should remain as friends as you are lovers. For the time will come when the romance in the relationship will die. When you will start to feel that your wife is starting to act like your mother who nags you about almost everything (which is her right since she only wants the best for you) and your husband will start to act like your son (who will always think that he knows what he’s doing and that he can do it on his own). But you know that’s natural order of things. Love is an emotion. And like any kind of emotion, it changes or even worse it fades. But friendship, friendship is a relationship.

It has been built on trust, respect and experiences that both of you have gone through. Friends have an open communication. They tell each other things that could hurt the other but the other will soon realize that it was said to make us see the truth and for our well being. I guess that’s what make friendships last. One thing that I have noticed with couples who have broken up is there is no communication between two parties. They don’t listen to what the other has to say. Just like in the movie Sex and the City, the guy was already freaking out and was trying to tell Carrie about it, but Carrie was so excited about the wedding that she didn’t listen to her groom. On the wedding day, the guy decided not to show up in the ceremony and called Carrie about it but decided to go back and explain himself but Carrie was so bewildered and hurt that she just hit him with the bouquet and left without hearing the guy out. Months passed and the guy was still trying to reach out but she stopped responding. See if she only listened to the guy, she would have learned that he was just trying to protect what they have and he was afraid for her not for him. So they spent a lot of time without each other which could have been avoided if she would just listen. I haven’t given this a thought before.

I have always dreamt of meeting somebody to sweep me of my feet. Somebody whom I’ll fall in love with at first sight because that will be the most romantic thing. But now, I realized, love at first sight can never be enough. If ever that it will happen both parties should learn to befriend one another or they will just end up apart. Because through friendship, people learns to listen and forgive one another. They accept each other for who they are so they keep no secrets from each other.